feeling sparkly
There’s something to be said about “dolling” yourself up, perfume and all the jewelry. When you walk into a room feeling like you got it ‘going on’. Your hair is perfect, make-up on point and those spanx are doing the job just right. I have a bit of an extra skip in my step when I feel ‘sparkly‘…
comfort equals contentment
Now, a regular day I wear the most dressy, pajama-like clothing that I can find. I throw my hair up into a messy bun and spray myself with perfume! I show up comfortable and ready for work. Failing to tell you that my line of work does not need flexible clothing and I certainly will not be in the wind where my hair will be in my eyes. My work is not physically challenging.
I make a conscious decision to dress comfortably so that my work doesn’t feel like “work”. Choosing to spend those precious few minutes in the morning cuddling or chatting with my family. However, let me say this one little choice to dress “comfortably” has defined some of my weight gain and a lot of my daily self-esteem thoughts.
Showing up for work in comfortable clothes is not a crisis, it is a choice. When things start to feel too relaxed I find myself a little more carefree and less thought goes into eating comfort foods, eating out, cookies at break and high sugary creamers to sweeten the coffee. Even if I feel competent and successful, my clothing says lazy.
take care of your outside self too
When I am more conscious of my outer-self, I take better care of my inner-self. I think you can look back and agree with this statement in your own life.
i do matter
I am going to choose to dress up like I matter. Because, my friend, I do matter, and those people around me matter too. You deserve my best.
your attitude is your choice
Now that we got the physical showing up taken care of, let me discuss the attitude. This is a deeper topic most people shy away from and do not want to talk about. Do you know someone in your life that shows up with a negative attitude? How does that make you feel? Let me guess, you sometimes succumb to the conversations and next thing you know the misery loves company festival is happening. You walk away from the conversation feeling worse and you do not even know why.
negativity
This negative person is so pessimistic about everything that anything you say is turned negative some how! You say, “Good morning, the sun is shining today!” And they reply “Oh, well we are supposed to get a storm in a few hours.” They cannot see happiness unless it bites them on the nose! Even then they would question if the happiness was actually real.
narcissism is not nice
What about that person in your environment that cannot stop talking about themselves. I know we all like to chat about our world, however this person makes every conversation about themselves. You barely get a word in edgewise and you often are half-way in the discussion wishing someone would interrupt and save you.
question yourself
How do you show up? Are you one of these personalities? Or are you the opposite? Are you a good mix of both? Can you see the good in things and turn a bleak situation into brilliance? Are you able to comfort someone by listening and not making their painful story about you?
Is there a huge part of you that craves positive reinforcement? I do, I do, I do! I am not perfectly positive, but I am more and more aware of how I want to show up in the world. It’s not about me, it’s about how does the world see me.
successful people do these things
When people ask me how to be successful, I usually respond by saying it takes hard work, perseverance and repetition. However, today I will add these necessities: Positivity, Perspective and Passion.
positivity equals productivity
If you do not show up for work with a positive attitude you will repel people, including those who may have been your clients. Your days will be harder, longer and more tiresome if you are negative. Look at the most successful people in your life, are they complainers? NO! They are positive, optimistic, idea driven and natural lovers of life.
perspective, it’s simple
Who are you working for? You or your client? Maintain perspective! When you make your work about others and not yourself you will succeed 100% of the time. People love to know they are first in your life. If you are working in an environment where you are sucking people dry for your own advantage, it will not be long and you will fail. No one likes a “me first” person, especially clients you serve.
passion is essential
Last but definitely not least is PASSION! If you do not feel excited about the career, business or friendship you are in, eventually your life will become just about the next pay cheque or how others can benefit you. Passion is seen through your eyes and it is derived directly from your heart. Remember people can see right through you if you do not have passion they will feel like do not matter, so they may take their business or friendship elsewhere!
So my friend, how are you showing up?
